I've been living with my boyfriend for over a year now. The lease is on my name only, the same for ALL the utilities or bills. Last year he hit me and ended up in jail and was convicted for domestic violence. There is a restraining order active, but I went to court and requested it to be modified to allow contact with no violence. Unfortunately it's happened again many times, but I don't wanna make it worse (i.e. calling cops again, etc). I've tried to have a civilized break up but it's impossible. He gets drunk and it escalates and he hits me again, so I live in fear all the time. I just wanna pack his stuff and load it in his car an change the locks. Someone told me that I have to evict him even though he's not on the lease and he knows that. What happens if I still do that, could he sue me? Would it be better if I just went to court and requested to modify the restraining order to deny any type of contact like it originally was?I am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
Usually, if someone is not on the lease, but has been there for 30 days they have certain tenant rights.
In your case, he presents a clear and present danger to you. so that may offset that right. The restraining order could supercede everything. I would call the police and have them with you when you load his things up. Tell them that you feel like he could be violent with you and that you need their protection. And technically, he is in violation of the protection order anyway, by living in your house. So I think you could throw him out immediately, as he has abused you again. Just be very careful and have safety around when you do this, or you could be beaten, or worse, killed.
You can get a restraining order. But a court protection order goes further. It allows him to have absolutely no contact with you at all. He can not call you or your family. If he does he is in violation. Usually, if they violate this they go to jail. You can also check your state for stalking laws if continues to hang around. Usually, when they find out there is jail time involved, they will discontinue.
Once you kick him out, I would have a baseball bat and a few socks with baseballs in them. Have them around the house, within reach in case he tries to come at you again you have the a means of defending yourself.
Do not put up with physical violence. Like I said, you go out tomorrow and get a baseball bat. And if he lays a finger on you, then you cap him right in the knees. If he is abusive to you, then he will continue this pattern with other women!I am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
the olny thing you can do is serve a eviction notice or restraining orderI am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
get order of protection and get a cell phone and tell police you need the phone for protection- they will give you one that only dials 911
then ask judge who gives you the order of protection to get him out of the apt--she might be able to officially evict him--tell her/him he's in the apt with you
or--just get out-before you get hurtI am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
if his name is not on a lease or any bills, u have a right to kick him out ( at least in nj). good luck to youI am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
Evict the bum and throw his belongings in the gutter where he belongs. Change the locks, change the restraining order to NO CONTACT with-in 500 yards.
After this all done, e-mail me and I will help get your life back in order where it belongs, with a caring respectful man. But that will take time and I mean take time as you have been hurt twice by this loser.I am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
No, you can't.
Even though he's not on the lease, he's a de-facto tenant, and you have to give him 30 days notice.
If he's violent though, DO NOT DO IT!!!
Go back to court NOW and get that restraining order put back in place to keep him out, then you CAN put his stuff out.
90% of women who're killed by abusive boyfriends are killed when they try to end it, so DO NOT MESS AROUND! Get an RO, and get the cops involved.
RichardI am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
You should get the restraining order changed to no contact. That, combined with the fact that nothing is in his name should make it legally possible for you to put his stuff out and change the locks.
I hope that lease ends soon, because I doubt that changing the locks will be enough to keep him away--you'll probably have to move.
As for you not wanting him to go to jail and have his life screwed up, that's not on you; that's on him. If he breaks the law, he has to face the consequences. HE'S screwing up his life, not you. If he stays out of jail, it just means he can continue to victimize you, or move on to someone else and victimize her. If he gets busted, they might make him get treatment for his behavior. In any case, being in jail will keep him from victimizing women for a while.I am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
You obviously have reason to fear for your safety, so get a stiffer restraining order against this neanderthal and contact the sheriff's department and ask if he and his belongings can be evicted. Your boyfriend may not be on the lease, but depending on the housing ordinances in your particular area he might have legal rights as a tenant and you could get in trouble if you just throw all his stuff out (he's probably considered nothing more than a houseguest under the law if he never contributed to paying the rent, but even then you would be obligated to store his belongings for a period of time before you can legally dispose of them). Once he's out, contact your landlord to let him know that he is no longer welcome on the premises, and consider having him change your locks.I am living with my boyfriend and I am the only one on the lease. Can I pack his sutff and put it in his car?
seriously now, give me your address and i will sort this guy out he seems like a jerk, trust me...i can help you if you let me.
